Don’t Be a LinkedIn Robot

I started a new job earlier this week and updated it on LinkedIn this morning as one is wont to do. It was about 10:00 am when I made the change. This is important for you to remember.

I last checked the tally at 11:54 a.m. I’ve received 24 messages on LinkedIn congratulating me on the job. But here’s the deal. Out of those 23, only one of those was an actual personalized message. The rest all said this: “Congrats on the new role!” because all people have to do is click on a button that says “Say Congrats” and hit send.

Yes, LinkedIn makes it that easy, but they’ve also turned us into robots that are only doing something because it’s easy. You don’t click on someone’s profile where all you’d have to do there is click the like button and even write (by yourself, with your own hands) “Congrats on the new role!”.

You know what else would be more meaningful, Johnny 5? A thumbs up emoji. Because at least it shows me you wanted to put some effort into your sentiment.

I’m not angry at those folks that have congratulated me via one click. It’s better than nothing, right? I think there are better ways to interact and engage with people when something monumental has happened, like a new job.

In the HR world, we talk about being more human, so let’s practice what we preach on something this easy.

Are You A True Ally?

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Disclaimer: I need to preface this by saying I’m only one member of the LGBTQ community and I am not attempting to represent everyone from every under-represented and disenfranchised community. We all have our own individual experiences and it’s important that we all talk about them.

I’m a queer female. I’m privileged enough to live in a progressive, usually safe area of the country. I work for a company where my life is just as normal as the next person and I have never felt as if I were treated differently based on my sexual orientation. I’m an elected official on my town’s City Council where I am the first openly LGBTQ member of the council. 95% of the time I am completely comfortable with all of that. The other 5%? I really need my allies there.

Here are some recent examples of how my allies have supported me, walked beside me, given me space, and even stepped in front of me:

  • I was invited to a formal dinner that would be primarily attended by men in fairly conservative careers. My first thought was how awkward I would feel walking into a formal dinner with a nicer bow-tie than the men there, and how out of the norm that would be in their day-to-day life. I talked to another invitee about that and she offered to wear a suit with me. That’s a true ally.
  • When I was campaigning, I had volunteers doorknocking for me and they were met with questions about why I looked like Al Franken on my lit (I don’t know.), rolled their eyes when they saw a picture of my wife and I, spent hours listening to misogynistic old men talk about how women were terrible and had no place in local government. Instead of walking away, they continued to be proponents of why I would be a great representation of the people in our city. Those are true allies.
  • I experienced some mild stalking shortly after winning the election. I told a friend about it. She sent her husband and son out to drive by my house several times to make sure all was well last night. That’s a family full of true allies.
  • At the start of my new role, my leader at the time wanted to send out an organizational communication announcing my arrival. She asked if I wanted her to write anything about my family, specifically asking if it was okay to say I had a wife. She let me make that call. That’s a true ally.

We all want to be allies. At least I hope we do. I want to be a true ally and I know I can be better. It takes work because we have to check our privilege and the vast majority of us don’t realize we have to constantly do that. We can’t assume (i.e. pretend we know) what each person needs at all times.

On the other hand, those of us who need allies will be hard pressed to approach someone and say, “Hey, will you be an ally for me for a hot second?” I know that’s tricky, so it’s up to those of us with the privilege to step up, step out, and be a true ally to those that could really use one.

A few links to familiarize yourself with what this all means:

National Out to Win Day

Perhaps you’ve heard me say representation matters a time or two. Or maybe you’ve heard me say it a million times or two in the span of about five minutes. Either way, you know I’m a fan.

And perhaps you also know that I won an election this past fall to represent Ward 3 on City Council in West St. Paul, MN. I’m now the first openly LGBTQ person to serve on our city council. We’re a first ring suburb in the Twin Cities, which has over 3 million people if you combine Minneapolis and St. Paul, and one of the largest Pride festivals in the country. It’s progressive and diverse. It was baffling to me that it took that long to make that happen.

Today is National Out to Win Day. Running for office isn’t easy for anyone. I don’t care what people say. It’s not easy as part of the LGBTQ community for several more reasons. When you knock on someone’s door or introduce yourself to someone at a community event, you don’t know how they’re going to respond. My intent isn’t to scare people away by saying that, but an attempt to show how badly we need more representation. We can’t keep moving our communities into positive and we can’t make progress until more of us are represented at those levels.

For my LGBTQ folks, consider running for office. Any office. We have to be told over and over and over in order for it to resonate that we can do something like this and that we can make a difference. I’m here to tell you that same thing again. You can be a voice, not only for people in the LGBTQ community, for other people in marginalized and underrepresented groups that haven’t had these voices.

And for people that are reading this because they thought it might have something to do with human resources, here’s some breaking news. It has to do with humans and that’s your bag. When we’re underrepresented, we need our voices amplified. Help those around you move into positions where they can do that. That’s a true ally.