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More about my 2018

I used to do this meme type thing every single year on my personal blog. I could probably go do it over there, but I figure that doesn’t really match up to goal in life, which is just be myself when it comes to my career. And this has some workish stuff in it.

1. What did you do in 2018 that you’d never done before?
Cut an umbilical cord. Got invited to be a blogger for the national SHRM conference. Sang happy birthday to my friend Justin Timberlake. Put together a stage for Justin Timberlake during the Super Bowl Halftime Show. Filed to run for city council. Saw Hamilton. Knocked on strangers’ doors to ask them to vote for me. Said goodbye to my grandma. Won a primary election. Almost got my feet run over by a car driven by a former city council person. Became a damn hugger. Organized a tire changing clinic for women. Won a general election for West St. Paul City Council. Drove to Missouri 7 times in a year.

2. Did you keep your new years’ resolutions and will you make more for next year?
The word resolution isn’t my jam. I just like to do better and be better.

3. Did anyone close to you give birth?
Um, my wife. And then Jade (and Matt) rounded out the year with Baby K.

4. Did anyone close to you die?
My grandma.

5. What countries did you visit?
Iowa. It’s country AF. Our only traveling this year was back and forth to Missouri.

6. What would you like to have in 2019 that you lacked in 2018?
Time. Energy. Dates with my wife. Travel.

7. What date from 2018 will remain etched upon your memory, and why?

  • May 14th: the most awesome city council meeting of all time.
  • May 22nd: John and I filed for city council with our boys in tow.
  • July 25th: my grandma died
  • August 14th: I won the primary election.
  • November 6th: I won the general election.

8. What was your biggest achievement of the year?
Ellis J. Winning the city council election. Quitting a job that was giving me ulcers in favor of one that got me excited about HR again. Making amazing friends.

9. What was your biggest failure?
I didn’t read as much as I wanted. I didn’t do any of the “projects” I kept telling myself I was going to do.

10. Did you suffer illness or injury?
Two week long migraine that resulted in MRIs, medication, losing my mind, etc.

11. What was the best thing you bought?
We just bought “stuff” this year. Maybe the new dishwasher?

12. Whose behavior merited celebration?
Mine, you jackholes. The Women of West St. Paul. Women everywhere. People of color. My grandma’s, which was evident in the people that came to pay their respects to her when she was sick and when we celebrated her life.

13. Whose behavior made you appalled and depressed?
Racists. Cowards. Bigots. Liars. Our president. Entitled white people.

14. Where did most of your money go?
Bills. Diapers. Gas.

15. What did you get really, really, really excited about?
Ellis. Winning my elections. Making rad friends.

16. What song will always remind you of 2018?
Anything Hamilton. So obsessed.

17. Compared to this time last year, are you:
a) Fatter or thinner: Thinner. 
b) Richer or poorer: Richer. 
c) Happier or less happy: Happier.

18. What do you wish you’d done more of?
Reading. Traveling. Self-care. Staying closer connected with old friends.

19. What do you wish you’d done less of?
Thinking about how other thought of me. Because who cares.

20. How did you spend Christmas?
In Missouri. We visited grandpa in his rehab center, went to see a few lights.

21. Did you fall in love in 2018?
I do every year just in different ways – with my wife every year, and now with my boys.

22. What was your favorite TV program?
The 1.5 seasons of Shameless that I watched.

23. Do you hate anyone now that you didn’t hate this time last year?
Nah. Not worth it.

24. What was the best book you read?
I only read five books. Two hit me right in the face: Braving the Wilderness by Brene Brown and Year of Yes by Shonda Rhimes. I read them at a time when I truly needed them and it was glorious.

25. What was your greatest musical discovery of 2018?
The Hamilton soundtrack and mix tape. Sorry, not sorry for being so obsessed with Hamilton.

26. What did you want and get?
A new son and a lot of votes when it mattered.

27. What did you want and not get?
I really wanted a family vacation at some point during the year, but it just didn’t work out.

28. What was your favorite film of this year?
I only watched one grown up movie all year and it was Ocean 8, but I do love a good heist movie. Coco was really great, too.

29. What did you do on your birthday, and how old were you?
I was 40. Maybe we went out to dinner?

30. What one thing would have made your year immeasurably more satisfying?
Not having to get security cameras on my house.

31. How would you describe your personal fashion concept in 2018?
Myself.

32. What kept you sane?
My wife. My boys (most the time). My friends/community.

33. Which celebrity/public figure did you fancy the most?
Female-identifying folks and people of color that stepped up to make a difference in a million different ways.

34. What political issue stirred you the most?
Any action that was ordered or not ordered from the White House. Kids died. Trans folks and POC died. They all keep dying. Our government isn’t doing anything. I’m hoping that changes this year.

35. Who did you miss?
Both my grandmas. Out of state friends I didn’t get to see as much as I wanted.

36. Who was the best new person you met?
I can’t do this list any justice because I would forget someone and feel awful. People in West St. Paul or connected to West St. Paul that I got to know and adore is pretty much that whole list. We have local family now and it feels so good.

37. Tell us a valuable life lesson you learned in 2018:
Be authentic. You won’t win every battle that way, but that just means it wasn’t the right thing for you to battle anyway. Don’t care if people don’t like you. That’s on them and it’s not worth your time to think about it.

It’s Been 4 Months

It’s been four months since I’ve hit the publish button here. There are at least half a dozen posts sitting in draft status and approximately 45,338 ideas floating around in my head. Not an exaggeration.

In those last four months, a lot has happened. A lot, a lot. You get bullet points, because despite what some may choose to believe it hasn’t all been shared via social media and isn’t always covered in rainbow tinted glitter. But it’s real life and I’m all about real life.

  • I dove head first into a grassroots groundswell of activism led by an amazing group of intelligent and passionate women driven towards change in our community. I’ve never felt so empowered. I also announced my intent to run for West St. Paul City Council. (You can watch the video clip here and visit my campaign site here.) I didn’t know one of the perks of being a local politician would be getting to know so many amazing people and building true friendships with them.
  • I didn’t get to go to #SHRM18. It was ultimately my decision, but looking back, definitely one I regret even though it seemed like the right choice at the time.
  • We went to Des Moines to see Hamilton. It was life changing and I don’t care how cliche that sounds. I want to see it over and over.
  • My wife got pneumonia and was out of work for three weeks. The whole family passed around mystery viruses for a good week during that time.
  • My grandma was given a month to live. We drove to Missouri to see her while she was still well enough to see us and we could still talk. It was a beautiful visit. She died less than a week after we got back. We went back for her funeral. She was 92, but when you lose one of the most amazing pillars of your life, it doesn’t matter how old she is. I think of her daily and I always will.
  • Won my primary election. In a big way. On to the general election in November!
  • Accepted a job offer. It was easy to accept. I had a really positive feeling about it during the whole interview process and can’t wait to start in a few weeks.

And that’s my last four months in a nutshell. Is it all HR related? Nope. But it’s human related and that’s what matters to me.

My Five Year Woriversary

Five years (and one day) ago, I walked into the doors of a medium-sized credit union as the newest person of their HR team. And, oooh, boy. What. A. Ride.

I wasn’t looking for work when I applied to work where I’m at right now. I had s job. It paid the bills. I was good at it. It was comfortable. And part of that job was finding people to do customer service people for the call centers of that medium-sized credit union.

They were so obsessive about what they wanted in candidates and it was killing me. The candidates needed to really get what it meant to go above and beyond with customers and how to really get to know them, but it was totally cool if they didn’t have any experience.

The whole role, I kept hearing about the “culture” at this credit union and I had no idea what that meant because where I was working didn’t know what that really meant either. And whether it was fate or luck or pure randomness, one night I got an Indeed alert that they’d posted a job in their HR department. I thought about it for 12 seconds, updates my severely neglected resume, and applied.

I got a call on my birthday to schedule a phone interview and that whole culture thing started making itself incredibly evident during the entire interview process and I REALLY WANTED TO WORK THERE!

And here I am five years later.

I’ve learned a lot. My leader asked last Friday about some of my best moments here. At the very top of the list was being on stage in front of the entire (now large-sized) company when someone from my team got to announce that we were rolling out a six week paid parental leave. And it’s also anytime a leader calls me ready to offer a job to someone I’ve told them they’re gonna love or another leader wants to tell me that they’ve been working with one of their employees on something and they can see it start to click. Those are the best. Those are my jam. Those are why I <3 HR so much.

This company, the people I work with and the people that lead me have been incredible guides for the past five years in my growth every day, both professionally and personally. I feel like I got a pretty good deal with this job!

Here’s to five more!